By Robert P. Poindexter
Nautically speaking, a partner is a stout wooden frame surrounding the mast that takes the strain off of the deck timbers.
Of course, most people don’t associate that word with the sailing vernacular above. Maybe they should though. After all, isn’t that what being a partner is all about? When you think about it, being a good partner means taking on some of the burden in order to lighten the load of someone who depends on you.
It took me more than 40 years to find that kind of true partnership, and I am grateful for it every day. Decisions I made before this partnership, meant that I was all alone no matter what the outcome may be. I had no one to support my good decisions, and more importantly, no one to warn me before I made a bad one. Those of you fortunate enough to be in strong relationships, know exactly what I mean.
Being a good partner means lending support when it is needed, where it is needed. Of course, in order for it to be a good partnership, all parties involved should be willing to be supportive and, vice versa, accept support. It’s a baffling trait we humans seem to share, but we tend to find being supportive easier than accepting it.
Perhaps we are afraid that the support being offered will come with too many limitations on what we want to do instead of what we should do. Or maybe, we are too embarrassed to ask for the help, because of some unrealistic fear of being perceived as weak or unable to take care of things on our own. And sometimes, it is simply a matter of not trusting the opinion of someone claiming to be a partner. It’s an unfortunate fact that many of us have had pseudo partners who only offered advice that ultimately only served them.
When seeking a partnership for your professional resume, ask yourself a few key questions before deciding whom you want to work with.
There are many times in our lives when we need a good partner, and today’s job seeker needs this more than at any other time in our recent history.
So find a partner that will throw you a life-ring, not an anchor.
Otherwise, you could find yourself and your career “sleepin’ wit’ da fishes,” so to speak.
For years, everyone who knows me was quite sure that when I left the Midwest, it would be for the sun-filled Gulf Coast. While those long, sandy beaches boasting palm-treed shorelines and dolphins frolicking in the surf are still my ultimate goal, for now I have settled in a somewhat less grandiose environment.
The weather here is, by far, an improvement over the seemingly endless winters of Kansas City, and the new lake is almost 10 times the size of our old one. In addition to this, our home is only 1.8 miles from our new digs, so the hour-long drive we used to make, and all of the planning that had to go into it is no longer a part of our sailing routine.
Forgot something at the house?
No problem, just go back and get it.
Forgot to shut something off on the boat?
No problem, I’ll just run down and take care it.
Jac and I spent much of last year kvetching over where we should go and what destination would make the most sense for our goals, both long- and short-term. Cost of living was the major concern, as I would be giving up a very lucrative career, and we would both be working her resume business while I spent more time honing my writing skills by taking on freelance work that would hardly equal the salary we were both accustomed to me bringing in.
Then one day, a work colleague who was aware of my sailing hobby, casually mentioned Lake Texoma and asked if I had ever been there. I admitted that I had never heard of it, and he proceeded to give me information that led to my further investigation of this sprawling 90,000-acre body of water situated on the Texas-Oklahoma border.
In November, we planned a trip to see it for ourselves, and Jac fell in love while I fell in like. We found a modest home that fit our needs, and before long, Gordonville, Texas, became our new home.
It is a quiet, rural area where sleep comes easy, and a short walk will take you to a sandy beach that lies beneath a canopy of cedar and stately elms. And, although it’s not the tropical paradise of my dreams, it is quite charming and the local denizens are just as friendly as the island natives of the Caribbean — except, they are not trying to sell you t-shirts.
The water here is not the dreamy teal color of my desires, but there has never been a hurricane come on shore for as long as history has been recorded here, either.
So, here I sit one week and one day later on the balcony just off of our new master bedroom suite. The house is finally put together, and Jac and I strolled to the beach this morning before having breakfast. The birds are singing and a soft breeze rustles the pine cones of the huge Texas pine tree just off to the corner of this deck. And I am delighted with our choice to make this place our new home.
If you are a job seeker currently in the throes of career change, I have a small piece of advice for you: If you can’t, for whatever reason, land at your ultimate destination right now, try to find joy in a place that may be close enough.
Hiring a professional resume writer is great place to start to at least get you heading in the right direction.
By Robert P. Poindexter
Job loss is a devastating time in anyone’s life–even if you hate the job; even if you had started making plans to leave the job long before you finally did; even if you chose to leave of your own volition. While few things can match the feeling of telling a boss you are not entirely fond of to shove his job where the sun don’t shine, by the time you make the drive home a harsh reality will have set in.
You are among the unemployed!!!
Sure, you have a little money in the bank. Your spouse has a job that will handle the household bills for awhile, and you’ve been wanting to spend a little extra time at the park. But that check you depended on is not going to be getting deposited anymore, and whatever you have is all you have.
Your work friends said they would stay in touch as you walked out the door. But, will they really? You’ve hardly pulled into the driveway, and you are already missing the free coffee and donuts.
“What now?” you ask yourself. “What will become of me? I can’t live on macaroni and cheese for the rest of my life. Oh, for the love of all that is good and decent, WHAT HAVE I DONE??!!!?”
Take it from one who has been there and done that, you will survive. Someone, somewhere will want you to be a part of their team. Take a deep breath, and prepare to move ahead. You are a new person. You get another chance to be happy and fulfilled. You get to reinvent yourself and become the you you couldn’t be under the iron rule of ‘old what’s his name.’
Once you’ve settled into this new life, have a coffee and make a connection with a professional resume writer. A friendly voice on the other end of the line who sincerely cares about your future aspirations will help you gain traction and get your head back in the game.
But until you’re ready to make that important step, I suggest the following recipe to help keep up your strength for the next interview:
Voila, dinner is served.